Forgiveness: It's about you.

I just want to share a few short thoughts on forgiveness and before I do, let me share the why I think this subject is so very relevant to those trying to strive for healthy living. I have found that unforgiveness and the stress it brings pushes many of us to eat, drink, or find other areas that help us escape our pain. Probably the greatest motivation to self- medicate with food, drugs, alcohol, or sex is our desire to escape our painful past.

I escaped with food.

Let’s talk about forgiveness, and please understand that this subject is much to vast to address exhaustively in a short Fit.Church Weekend Video, but we can make a start.

1. Forgiveness is about you.

Have you heard this saying, “Refusing to forgive someone else is like drinking rat poison and expecting the rat to die.”? I have, and when I googled the statement, almost a 1 million hits were there. While I don’t know who to attribute the quote to, it is true.

We mistakenly feel that forgiving someone is about letting them off the hook for a wrong they have done. As a victim of someone else’s action, if I fail to forgive, I am choosing to allow that action to victimize me the rest of my life. Someone can still be held accountable for their action even when they are forgiven.

2. Forgiveness is a process.

We often think that since forgiveness is commanded in the Bible that it is a decision that we simply make. There is nothing simple about it. Forgiveness is much more a decision that is made over and over and over again. Forgiveness is much more like my health journey. I did make a decision in 2010 to become healthy, but it has been anything but

 

Ephesians 4:31-32

31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you,

along with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as

God in Christ forgave you.

 

3. Forgiveness does NOT require reconciliation.

I could list many situations where reconciliation while possible may not be probable. Domestic violence is one of those issues that make reconciliation improbable in many instances. Forgiveness without reconciliation is possible and a reality for many in certain situations.

Now listen to the passage of scripture one more time...

Ephesians 4:31-32
31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Finally, let me emphasize one final time...Forgiving someone who victimized you in any way...is for your benefit.